This week I thought that I would just give an update on our family status. We have recently added a member to our family. He was born on Feb 3, 2014. All went well and even though I thought that I had EVERYTHING ready and planned…. I did not.
Freezer meals were ready, I had a birth plan in place, people arranged to come to my home to stay with my other kids, how it would work out when I came home from the hospital, and all of the new baby items arranged neatly ready for use.
None of that happened. Exactly. In that order. I did have freezer meals planned, but people were kind enough to make us enough meals to last for the entire week. It was very nice to have only paper plates to throw away and heat up a hot meal. The freezer meals will just last us longer because we did not have to use them yet.
My birth plan was to arrive at the hospital in time with my husband tying up the loose ends at home. I was going to try and have my baby natural, but then the pain started and I backed out. It is my fourth child, but it was still VERY painful even with the epidural. But, the epidural was painful so there was no way to escape the inevitable.
At the time we left for the hospital my helper at my home came down with the flu so they were unable to help at all. I mean with a new baby coming home and several other children there we did not want to have to deal with a sickness on top of other stress. I had to have a friend drive me to the hospital as my husband prepared for help at home. By the time he arrived at the hospital it was “GO” time with the baby.
Not to mention the next day we were expected to get the biggest snowfall of all….6-8 inches on top of what we have now.
My husband was able to go back and forth safely and did a great job managing our other children and household responsibilities.
When I arrived home with the baby, I had envisioned a well organized home and children. The kids were supposed to cooperate, they were going to be excited and very helpful. Our schedule would resume in a similar way as it did prior to the baby. Instead, it was chaos. One of my children decided it would be a good idea to skip his schoolwork while I was away, one of my children adored the baby and can’t keep his hands off of him (which was good to a point), and the third child who was the baby decided to regress from potty training and throw continuous meltdowns.
All of the clothes had been washed for the baby, but they were from 0-12 months. As I was trying to get him dressed I am having to throw clothes over the bed because he is crying and I needed something fast.
At one point I thought I was drowning in emotions that I could not explain. Then I went to bed, got very little rest and started the next day.
Circumstances seem better the next day, and then the next and so on and so forth.
So, here is the moral of the story…have a backup plan, and if doesn’t work just realize that if we take our days one by one we will get through them no matter how rough.
Murphy’s law will always come true when least expected.